Well a couple of things! I have observed my cousins, friends and their parents and there are things that do bother me. Here we go!
1)Molycoddling is poisonous .
Why do you have to be so over protective of your children.You don't have to agree to everything your children demand.Don’t give into their Tantrums, Make them Humble. Let them face the punishment in school,soil their clothes, You don't have to get them 8 types of Pencil cases , 50 pair of shoes, A play station at the age of 6, Do their homework, Or stop them from playing outside because of pollution and germs…Stop spoon feeding! Let them whine and sulk for a day or two, Let them figure out things themselves Unless you want your child to grow up into an Obnoxious Complacent prick who is oblivious of the real world and thinks he can have whatever he wants without actually working hard.
2) Class Conscious People need to chill
Most of the parents are A Grade classists . Sorry to say that They don't realize it until their child becomes one. But I have heard them saying things like “Don't be friendly with the maid” “Don't talk to her , her father is a clerk” “Don’t sit with them” I did my Schooling from an Army School and they have these Ranks … Officer, JCO and ORs. I was a civilian ,out of this hierarchy but I'd observe them , their behaviors, I had a friend whose dad was an officer ( She found the idea of talking to other students who apparently were not of the same “class” repulsive and was high headed.) I remember we had a PTA meet and her mom said “ Dekho O R ka baccha is doing so good Tumhe toh aur accha karna chaiye beta” (An OR's child is doing so good you are supposed to do Better than them) .
I found this bovine. Parents like these need to realise how abysmal and awful their mindset is. It not only makes your child look down upon their collegues and but also shatters the image of those who work hard to make the two ends meet.
This is the reason why so many teenagers are nothing but hubristic hollow idiots Notwithstanding their so called “HIGH SOCIO ECONOMIC STATUS” . They are proud of something they didn't earn ?
3) Paucity of Freedom gives birth to Rebels
I know it's a tad bit contradictory to what i had written earlier but Parents should be easy with teenagers. Give them the right amount of space and privacy.I understand disciplining your child is essential but you shouldn't restrict them to the point where they become sneaky , start hiding things. Trust me i have a friend and her parents are very Orthodox and strict. She keeps all her meetings clandestine, Her parents aren't even aware of what she does without an iota of shame, It's even worse. You don't want your child to be like her
4) Let your childern Express.
You need to listen to your children patiently and let them share things. You can't expect them to share stuff with you if you can't promise them reliability . This is 21 century , lossen up a bit. Your children will have crushes , they will be curious about things, they would want to go out on sleepovers and movies. Listen to them , advice them, be approachable, Don't lose your nerve if they tell you about something you dissent from. The prime reason why Children start hiding things is because parents are highly uncommunicative.
5) Stop Worshipping the Society.
You don't have to do that. PEOPLE Don't need to be pleased. Stop forcing your decisions on children just because you think the society won't approve of it. Encourage your children to do what they are passionate about , Fan their fames.People are fickle they don't care about you. As they say if it comes let it , If it goes let it.
6) Let your child be.
It's okay if your child doesn't get 95+ in 12 boards or isn't able to make it to the IIT or IIM . Everyone is brilliant they just have different intrests. Don't compare your child to Tom, dick and Harry. Everyone has a different journey and different intrests. Also you are already behind a million people if you don't love what you do . Don't crib about everything they do all the time. It's not healthy for your child and your relationship .
(PS- I feel fortunate to have been raised by a lady who's liberal and Has a sense of wisdom beyond the realm of my understanding. Who has always been supportive of me through thick and thin. The above mentioned points were utterly based upon my observation .)
* Bows down *
NAMASTE
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