So i am Going to hit 21 this December…Here is a List of 21 things I learned before 21 in absolutely no particular order.
*LONG POST*
Spread love as you would Cheese!
Most of us don't realize how important it is to be kind and love each other until we are at our worst. Humans crave mad love. Be the person you needed as a kid! At least try? It actually radiates positivity and helps you get over your apathy.
Judge not lest ye be judged…
It's absolutely OKAY to judge people. Human beings are Rational beings and are critical of others…sometimes even themselves! Judging others is normal, However one mustn't Voice it out unless ready to face the backlash for every action has an equal and opposite reaction.
Trust your Gut.
If it doesn't feel right, It probably ain't. Remember you don't have to explain about why you feel about something or someone a certain way… energy doesn't lie. Never ever ignore your gut
.Love yourself
Your relationship with yourself sets the tone of every other relationship in your life.You don't have to be harsh on yourself . If you look down upon yourself others probably will too! If you think you're Ugly well…Don’t expect others to call you beautiful.
Remember don't take yourself too seriously, No one else does .
You maybe the ripest , juciest peach in the world but still there is going to be someone who hates peaches
Don't get affected by what others think of you… Yes it is very difficult, But you need to come to terms with the fact that not everyone will love you or respect you, Not everyone matters right? Don't lose yourself, Just do your thing!
Find people who appreciate the way flowers bloom inside of you and never let them go!
There will be people “SO CALLED FRIENDS” who will try to change you, they will point your insecurities out and massacre your confidence at the drop of a hat. You don't need them in your life anymore. Be with those who bring out the best in you and make you feel special. There will be very few . That's your Tribe. Those who disrespect you, The naysayers need to be jettisoned.
Victim mentality Won't ever help you
Fabrication of victimhood , it makes you sound stupid, An attention seeker. Life's fair because it's unfair to all. Stop cribing, stop complaining ,stop blaming . It won't get you zilch . Channelise your energy in the right direction and work hard for what you think you deserve.Also Do not entertain people who play the victim card. Be a bystander and distance yourself from the Drama queens.
Embrace your soltitude
ⁿIts okay to be alone but not lonely. Cherish your “Me Time” go out on walks, to cafes , eat alone sometimes, pamper yourself. It's helps you know yourself better! Trust me
Life without ambition is like love without sex.
Each one of us is born with a unique ⁿcombination of genes is powerful enough to bring a change by our own little actions. Let your circle be full of people who have ambition and desire.
Stop comparing.
You are different . One of a kind. Your journey, strengths and weaknesses are different. COMPARISON IS FOR CLONES. Don't disrespect your uniqueness by comparing yourself. best for you. When it comes to a customized advice, You know you can count on them. Make them your priority
Don't Bottle them up !
If you feel strongly about something put it on the table. Because it's best not to keep anything inside unless you want to mess it up and create drama . Be very clear about your emotions.
Practice detachment.
Don't ever get attached or dependant on something and someone. Love those who are there right now and be prepared to lose them tomorrow and live with the memories you created with themj. LIVE IN THE MOMENT. They will eventually leave … all of them.
Don't be Nasty
Don't look at people with contempt . I know it doesn't sound fancy but people never forget how you make them feel. Don't say things that are hurtful and mean… You can't fix yourself by breaking others. Never ever bully someone for who they are.
Guilt is poisonous
It will eat you up. Admit your mistakes and refrain from doing anything that'll destroy someone else because when someone says you hurt them you don't get to decide you didn't It's the worst emotion one can experience.
Know how the hurt feels
Be thankful to them, People who leave you shattered and helpless, Failures that make you feel like a loser,. Those dark days apparently teach you the best lessons. They help you grow, evolve as a person. It's all the part of the process… As they say it takes a good fall to know where you stand .
Understand your worth But don't Blow Your trumpet
If you think you deserve better work for it and get it because the moment you settle for less than you deserve you get even less than what you settled for . That doesn't mean you belittle everything and everyone.
Be Carefree Not Careless
Do not indulge in things that take you away from the truth of your values and culture. Know your purpose in life and work hard to achieve your goals. Have fun but not at the cost of your priorities (Learn to prioritize… )
Don't Rush.
Nothing is as unhealthy as a messed up relationship. Be patient you won't die alone. Don't get into a relationship with anyone if you can't handle the heartbreak. It is real and the consequences, Dire. So unless you know what you want, Don't jump into it just because everyone else is.
Little things matter
Smile at stangers, share that last slice of pizza, treasure that long conversation with an old friend….Let the happy vibes travel!
Learn everyday.
Strive hard to become The most intelligent person you know. Discuss ideas with people and apply what you learn and know your shit Anyone can know the point is to understand .
Took me almost 2 hours to write this. Burned 21 kcal lol.